Maiden, Mother, Crone

Maiden, Mother, Crone

A woman's life is filled with stages, milestones ushering in wondrous experiential apexes like the coming of fertility, motherhood, and wisdom. Three aspects, maiden, mother, and crone, have traditionally represented the bounties and new beginnings represented by each stage. The maiden is the aspect of new beginnings, youth, playfulness, spontaneity, and learning. A woman in the prime of her life can be said to be living under the aspect of the mother, who personifies fertility, strength, and stability. She is the gentle nurturer as well as the fierce lioness. Lastly, and by far the most misunderstood and yet in many ways the most deserving of reverence, is the crone, who holds within her all of the wisdom of the journeys of womanhood within her.

The word crone once meant simply 'wise woman' and, in antiquity, was a term of respect. The crone was a voice of wisdom, an elder, a healer, a counselor, and a teacher, who had traveled the paths of maiden and mother and possessed the accumulated wisdom of youth, adulthood, and old age. She represented the fulfillment of maturity and the knowledge that could only be obtained through a life well lived. The transition to cronehood was a rich and empowering experience, and an important rite of passage, though not one associated with a specific age. Today, though it seems eternal youth has become an obsession, women are reclaiming the status once associated with cronehood by recognizing their evolution and acting upon it. In awakening the crone, as she once was, women are acknowledging the extraordinary wisdom, grace, dignity, and beauty that comes with age.

In embracing the aspect of the crone, it is important to be aware of the fact that age, experience, knowledge, and power are profound gifts that can never be taken from you. Each stage in life is yours and yours alone, and should be embraced as a vital part of life's journey. As you pass lovingly through each stage, coming finally to the remarkable crone, you will gradually be awakened to the mysteries of each, until you hold within you the keys to them all.


Author Unknown

Spring Cleaning

The cover on the April Issue of Body & Soul states, Spring Clean your life; clear the clutter and find yourself" That really got me thinking about things in my life.

Maybe it's just the time in my life, I am clearing out the clutter. Extra stuff, getting rid of clothes that I haven't worn. Handbags, I LOVE handbags but I have given away a few precious ones...Even my red Prada that was a thrift store find is going to a new home soon. Why? I am not using it, someone I know wants it so off it goes.

Clearing out not only clutter of stuff....but clearing out of the mind, emotional baggage. I have also said and told others it's ok to clear out your house of friendship. You know folks who you call friends although they contribute nothing to life. They don't call, email, nothing...there is just the fact that you use to contact and communicate with said person then for some reason, nothing. No contact, no calls.

Well I have cleaned out my house of so-called friends, but what about family? Can you clean out family? Can you cut ties with family no matter what their role if any in your life? YES.

Family, first and foremost are people. And lets face it, just like those so-called friends of yours, family can take up unwanted space in your life and contribute nothing.

I have been contributing to several family relationships with my ex-husbands family since my divorce several years ago. Well yesterday was it for me. I am cutting those familial ties once and for all. Now dont get me wrong the ex's family has been for the most part pretty decent...to my kids. I have maintained those ties for my kids. Well it has really dawned on me that certain members of his family are really not worth my time and valueable energy anymore. My girls are being treated as cannon fodder in a war they have no business being a part of.

Oh sure, it's family someone is always getting hurt or stepped on, or mistreated. Well maybe in other families, but not in mine. My children's piece of mind, self esteem and outright look on life is very important to me. Yes, family is very important to me, which why cutting ties hurts but it's needed. My children especially my oldest has suffered some serious emotional damage because folks chose to put themselves first before said child.

Well with all this being said, it's ok. My girls will be fine. Yes, they will miss the interaction I have for so many years kept up for them. I will no longer make calls, arrange visits, and so forth. IT's past time for me to let go.

The Muse in me

Do you feel like the wind in your sail is gone?
You know you are in the doldrums when:
Your life and your work cease to be exciting or even interesting
You're spent, dried up and worn out
You seek distraction to feel better
You're tired but can't cut back or slow down
You need to be constantly busy to feel alive
Every creative project seems beyond your ability

Do you want wind in your sail again?
Look closely at what might be causing your energy deficit
Ask yourself
Is my muse well fed? What nourishes it?
Am I getting enough rest?
Is my creativity well appreciated and rewarded by others and me?
Am I working in a hospitable setting?
Is there enough variety in my work?

Too much? Are the demands and deadlines and workload daunting?
Am I working on at least one thing that energizes me?
Am I bored?
Is the rest of my life sapping my energy?
Have I taken on too many commitments?
Do frequent distractions derail my creative thoughts?
Do I plan for and insist upon time for myself?
Questions can help you determine if your creative life is in balance or seriously skewed.
Usually we are too busy putting out fires to worry about the water supply!!

Three things to remember
Conserve energy
Create energy
Focus energy

Today's life force resides in YOU
what will you do to fill your sails with wind

How creative can you be this weekend, Feed your spirit!

May the long time sun shine upon you, and the pure light within you guide you on your way
Bless this Earth with Peace

Ezevia Rose

Let it Go

It really does take a while to wrap your mind around a certain belief or a way of thinking. But once you accept it, things in life tend to flow a bit easier.

Folks are in your life for a reason or a season. If you can't think of one good reason why someone is in your life then it's time to cut them loose. In the last 6 yrs or so I have taken a good look at the folks in my life. Some I did call friends, but alas I was mistaken.

I have done my best to be as positive as possible. Learn from whatever life lesson is crossing my path if possible. Sure, I have bad days and bad experiences. But to dwell on them and to wish bad upon others is a waste of energy. Energy that I do not have to waste.

The following piece if from the minister T.D. Jakes. He speaks alot of truth in this piece. I don't care if you are Pagan/Christian/Druid whatever path you may follow, we all have to learn to let go at some point. Or we will stagnate and become bitter.

Let it Go - TD Jakes
There are people who can walk away from you. And hear me when I tell you this! When people can walk away from you: let them walk.

I don't want you to try to talk another person into staying with you, loving you, calling you, caring about you, coming to see you, staying attached to you. I mean hang up the phone. When people can walk away from you let them walk. Your destiny is never tied to anybody that left.

The Bible said that, they came out from us that it might be made manifest that they were not for us. For had they been of us, no doubt they would have continued with us. [1 John 2:19]

People leave you because they are not joined to you. And if they are not joined to you, you can't make them stay.

Let them go.

And it doesn't mean that they are a bad person it just means that their part in the story is over. And you've got to know when people's part in your story is over so that you don't keep trying to raise the dead.

You've got to know when it's dead.

You've got to know when it's over. Let me tell you something. I've got the gift of good-bye. It's the tenth spiritual gift, I believe in good-bye. It's not that I'm hateful, it's that I'm faithful, and I know whatever God means for me to have He'll give it to me. And if it takes too much sweat I don't need it. Stop begging people to stay.

Let them go!!

If you are holding on to something that doesn't belong to you and was never intended for your life, then you need to . . . . . . . .

LET IT GO!!!

If you are holding on to past hurts and pains . . . . . . . . .

LET IT GO!!!

If someone can't treat you right, love you back, and see your worth . . . . . . . .

LET IT GO!!!

If someone has angered you . . . . . . . .

LET IT GO!!!

If you are holding on to some thoughts of evil and revenge . . . . . . . .

LET IT GO!!!

If you are involved in a wrong relationship or addiction . . . . . . . .

LET IT GO!!!

If you are holding on to a job that no longer meets your needs or talents . . . . . . . . .

LET IT GO!!!

If you have a bad attitude . . . . . . . .

LET IT GO!!!

If you keep judging others to make yourself feel better . . . . . . . .

LET IT GO!!!

If you're stuck in the past and God is trying to take you to a new level in Him . . . . . . . .

LET IT GO!!!

If you are struggling with the healing of a broken relationship . . . . . . . .

LET IT GO!!!

If you keep trying to help someone who won't even try to help themselves . . . . . . . .

LET IT GO!!!

If you're feeling depressed and stressed . . . . . . . .

LET IT GO!!!

If there is a particular situation that you are so used to handling yourself and God is saying "take your hands off of it," then you need to . . . . . . . .

LET IT GO!!!

Let the past be the past Forget the former things. GOD is doing a new thing for 2007!!!

LET IT GO!!!

Get Right or Get Left. think about it, and then . . . . . . . .

LET IT GO!!!

"The Battle is the Lord's!"

Fascinating world of Wicca

I haven't posted in awhile. But I rec'd a really good post from my sister, Satori and I had to pass it on.

http://www.dnaindia.com/report.asp?newsid=1241095

Bewitching World of Wicca Mumbai:
Twentysix-year- old Sangeeta Krishnan is a part time editor of a scientific firm by profession but a wiccan by choice. She is as adept at using the computer as she is at using the crystal ball, wand, spells and magical charms for her wicca workshops. "I have been into this as long as I can remember. I used to have a lot of mystical experiences in my school days," says Krishnan, who has been practicing wicca for the last 10 years.
Rafique Pirani is a Math professor and a follower of wicca. "I employ minimal use of the magical tools. Instead I use angel and energy healing," he says. Pirani was inclined towards occult since his childhood and he finally took the plunge 15 years back and today is an expert in this field. People come to him with various issues -- health, prosperity or sheer peace of mind.

Welcome the new age wiccans and witches. They have jobs but also practice magic, albeit to spread positivity and goodness. For them, magic is not to harm but to benefit. Wicca, a nature based neo pagan religion is making its presence across the world and Mumbai is not untouched either. Swati Prakash, a self-confessed wiccan has been following wicca for the last six to seven years. Swati refers to magic as magick (spelt with a k). "The k here is to differentiate it from ordinary sleigh of hand or stage magic which is also called magic but is not real magic." She refuses to categorise magic into black or white. To her, magic involves creating an outer change through a change in one's inner consciousness. Nandini Hate-Mane, who is still learning more about wicca, incorporates Reiki and Aromatherapy along with magic depending upon the client's need. People approach them, having learnt about their healing powers, by word of mouth. The wiccans are healers and treat every individual by channelising their positive energies and the latent power hidden within. The wiccan community comes together when the planetary positions are rightly aligned and energise their power and spread positive vibes for the world around. While the community is doing its bit for the betterment of people's lives, many look upon it with scepticism.
While Krishnan's family supports her wiccan practices, she counters strange reactions too. "People find it hard to digest when I say I am a witch."

Love after 40...very real, very possible

So I am really wondering if a divorced mom of two can really expect to find love again at 42? I mean sure since my divorce many moons ago (6yrs) I have dated and have even been engaged twice. So I know that love is very real and possible.

But is the search for love in vain? And why am I searching? I mean shouldn't love be coming to me? I know from many past experiences that when I go out seeking I always find someone I shouldn't be with, hence the 2 broken engagements. However, call me insane but I believe in love, I always have. I know that being in love is a wonderful thing and should be cherised.

So lets look at some facts, I am 42, well educated, I date interracially (always have) and I am a mom to two girls. My libido is working very well thank you, and my flirtatious nature is in full swing. I attract men of all ages and nationalities. Matter of fact, Brad, 28 whom I recently chatted with in Walmart of all places asked for my phone number. I was flattered but not interested. Don't get me wrong, Brad was gorgeous, great smile, gorgeous blue eyes and long dark hair and could hold a conversation.

Now I will be 43 shortly and my belief in love is still very strong. I know that there is a wonderful guy out there who enjoys old movie musicals, and who can laugh at silly jokes. Someone who can enjoy a sunday afternoon in bed reading the paper and making love. Someone who can roll with whatever life throws at you. I don't think that's a tall order to fill, nor is it impossible. It just may take some time for him to find me.

Sex over 40

What can I say I was reading my latest issue of MORE magazine and I came across this funny article. I agree with some of it, and I wouldn't be me if I didn't add in my two cents worth.

10 reasons sex is better over 40 by Susan Shapiro

1. I've come clean. The time for fake IDs and even faker orgasms has long passed
ME: Fake an orgasm...why even bother at that rate.

2. I'm not easily rattled-If the condom rips, a leg cramps or a wrong name is is whispered, I can laugh about it. At 47, I'm more graceful when things go wrong and more grateful when it all goes right.
ME: I can so totally agree with this.

3. I no longer expect my lover to be a mind reader-I request birth control, viagra, a vibrator, handcuffs and porn when I want them...
ME: What no silk scarves or a flogger or two?

4. ...and I say no to gymnastic pretzel positions when I don't.
ME: ahh but it's always nice to be flexible IMHO.

5. I'm secure in my insecurities-A good man will focus on the size of my heart, not the size of my thighs. But there's nothing wrong with dimmer switches, candlelight, high-heeled slippers and satin robes.
ME: Whatever makes both of you feel good, go for it.

6. My waist my be bigger, but so is my wallet-nothing jump starts my drive like a weekend at a spa.
ME: ok nothing starts my drive like a simple pamper day whatever that may entail.

7. It's ok not to cuddle-If I'd rather watch TV or read a book, I don't obsess over what my coolness to postcoitel cooing really says about my relationship.
ME: gotta agree on this one, cuddling is great if you are both into that.

8. I'm not trying to set any personal records-I've been around the block, meaning I've gone down in an elevator, sideways in an airplane bathroom, standing up in the ocean. This has led to a sprained ankle, angry passengers and a sandy bikini bottom. I've come to accept that I like it best in a bed.
ME: Well I guess it all depends on who you are with. But a lazyboy recliner has wonderful possibilities.

9. I crave the sugar, but not the daddy-Gifts don't turn me on. I have my own money, thank you.
ME: are you meshuga...I love gifts, thank you very much

10. I can finally live out my Mrs. Robinson fantasy-If only I found twenty-something snivelers sexy.
ME: There are some very gifted and exceptional 20-something and 30-something men out there. NO fantasy here, if we click we click, age be damned!