Love after 40...very real, very possible

So I am really wondering if a divorced mom of two can really expect to find love again at 42? I mean sure since my divorce many moons ago (6yrs) I have dated and have even been engaged twice. So I know that love is very real and possible.

But is the search for love in vain? And why am I searching? I mean shouldn't love be coming to me? I know from many past experiences that when I go out seeking I always find someone I shouldn't be with, hence the 2 broken engagements. However, call me insane but I believe in love, I always have. I know that being in love is a wonderful thing and should be cherised.

So lets look at some facts, I am 42, well educated, I date interracially (always have) and I am a mom to two girls. My libido is working very well thank you, and my flirtatious nature is in full swing. I attract men of all ages and nationalities. Matter of fact, Brad, 28 whom I recently chatted with in Walmart of all places asked for my phone number. I was flattered but not interested. Don't get me wrong, Brad was gorgeous, great smile, gorgeous blue eyes and long dark hair and could hold a conversation.

Now I will be 43 shortly and my belief in love is still very strong. I know that there is a wonderful guy out there who enjoys old movie musicals, and who can laugh at silly jokes. Someone who can enjoy a sunday afternoon in bed reading the paper and making love. Someone who can roll with whatever life throws at you. I don't think that's a tall order to fill, nor is it impossible. It just may take some time for him to find me.

Sex over 40

What can I say I was reading my latest issue of MORE magazine and I came across this funny article. I agree with some of it, and I wouldn't be me if I didn't add in my two cents worth.

10 reasons sex is better over 40 by Susan Shapiro

1. I've come clean. The time for fake IDs and even faker orgasms has long passed
ME: Fake an orgasm...why even bother at that rate.

2. I'm not easily rattled-If the condom rips, a leg cramps or a wrong name is is whispered, I can laugh about it. At 47, I'm more graceful when things go wrong and more grateful when it all goes right.
ME: I can so totally agree with this.

3. I no longer expect my lover to be a mind reader-I request birth control, viagra, a vibrator, handcuffs and porn when I want them...
ME: What no silk scarves or a flogger or two?

4. ...and I say no to gymnastic pretzel positions when I don't.
ME: ahh but it's always nice to be flexible IMHO.

5. I'm secure in my insecurities-A good man will focus on the size of my heart, not the size of my thighs. But there's nothing wrong with dimmer switches, candlelight, high-heeled slippers and satin robes.
ME: Whatever makes both of you feel good, go for it.

6. My waist my be bigger, but so is my wallet-nothing jump starts my drive like a weekend at a spa.
ME: ok nothing starts my drive like a simple pamper day whatever that may entail.

7. It's ok not to cuddle-If I'd rather watch TV or read a book, I don't obsess over what my coolness to postcoitel cooing really says about my relationship.
ME: gotta agree on this one, cuddling is great if you are both into that.

8. I'm not trying to set any personal records-I've been around the block, meaning I've gone down in an elevator, sideways in an airplane bathroom, standing up in the ocean. This has led to a sprained ankle, angry passengers and a sandy bikini bottom. I've come to accept that I like it best in a bed.
ME: Well I guess it all depends on who you are with. But a lazyboy recliner has wonderful possibilities.

9. I crave the sugar, but not the daddy-Gifts don't turn me on. I have my own money, thank you.
ME: are you meshuga...I love gifts, thank you very much

10. I can finally live out my Mrs. Robinson fantasy-If only I found twenty-something snivelers sexy.
ME: There are some very gifted and exceptional 20-something and 30-something men out there. NO fantasy here, if we click we click, age be damned!

Fresh new season

Ahh the change of seasons is upon us once again. Mabon (fall) starts 9/22/08. The weather here has been cool. Some of the trees have already started changing colors. I have a new love for Mabon. Not just the colors of the season but it's change. Change is always good. Sometimes it's hard to let change occur. But I have found it's best to accept change and embrace it with open arms.

The air is cooler and that ushers in of course warmer clothing and the desire to cuddle with your love under the covers.

I am an avid tea drinker and Mabon brings out the tea kettle and my ever growing selection of teas to try. I usually fix a carafe of tea everyday and really enjoy the flavors and how the warmth of my brew soothes my soul.

So I raise my tea cup to Mabon and all it's wonderful changes.

Serati's Flame

I just finished reading Serati's Flame by T.J. Michaels. If you like your books with bite and spice, then this novel is just the ticket for you.

From the first page to the last page, Michaels characters deliver action and adventure and of course hot, searing passion. What can I say I like what I like and that means action, magick, adventure and sex in my books.

Alaan Serati is the main male character of this book. Michaels vivid and devastating description of Serati is one that gets the libido racing. Serati is a man who is passionate about everything, his life, his work and his love for Tameth.

Tameth the main female character is strong, talented and equally passionate. It takes Tameth awhile to really believe that Alaan is truly in love with her and not the ghost/memory of his former love.

Tameth and Alaan's first intimate encounter is anything but delicate, but passions are ignited and you the reader gets to enjoy all that these characters have to offer.

I am definately hooked on Michaels, I am going to have to see what other books of hers I can find.

Muse where for art thou?

I was reading the blog of another writer and she happen to mention her muse, you know her inspiration for writing. Everyone has a muse of sorts. It's that certain something that inspires you to do what you do. Your creativity is inspired and that inspiration is contributed to a Muse, your Muse.

Well I am a freelance writer, sort of. I really enjoy writing. But about a year ago my muse and I parted ways. It wasn't a nasty parting, it was more of a use it or loose it sort of parting. While I enjoy writing, I had began to feel the drag of doing it. I had deadlines to meet, while also fulfiling other obligations in my life, like being a mom, chauffeur, chef and many other things.

I would get around to writing when I thought about it, and then it wasn't always my best work. So after feeling the drag of writing, my Muse just left. Packed her bags and hit the proverbial road. I have no doubt that she will return. Matter of fact my muse poked her head in the door this summer. She inspired a short story to come about. My first attempt to really write in about 14months.

I have a feeling my muse will be returning shortly, I am starting to have thoughts of characters and stories that I can put them into. I will say that my muse has been missed and I will certainly welcome her with open arms when she returns.

I've Learned

Maya Angelou was interviewed on her birthday and was asked what she thought of growing older.

And, there on television, she said it was 'exciting.' Regarding body changes, she said there were many, occurring every day...like her breasts. They seem to be in a race to see which will reach her waist first.

The audience laughed so hard they cried. She is such a simple and honest woman, with so much wisdom in her words!


"I've learned that no matter what happens, or how bad it seems
today, life does go on, and it will be better tomorrow.'I've learned that you can tell a lot about a person by the way he/she handles these three things: a rainy day, lost luggage, and tangled Christmas tree lights.'


'I've learned that regardless of your relationship with your parents, you'll miss them when they're gone from your life.'

'I've learned that making a 'living' is not the same thing as 'making a life.'

'I've learned that life sometimes gives you a second chance.'

'I've learned that you shouldn't go through life with a catcher's mitt on both hands; you need to be able to throw some things back.'

'I've learned that whenever I decide something with an open heart, I usually make the right decision.'

'I've learned that even when I have pains, I don't have to be one.'

'I've learned that every day you should reach out and touch someone. People love a warm hug or just a friendly pat on the back.'

'I've learned that I still have a lot to learn.'

'I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.'

Acheron by Sherrilyn Kenyon

WOW I just finished reading the latest novel by Sherrilyn Kenyon. Acheron is the latest in her Dark Hunter series of books. Kenyon's book have shapeshifters, vamps, magick and of course steamy romance.

Acheron is the leader and commander of the Dark-Hunters. Dark-Hunters are the ones who fight the Daimons and kill them so that they don't feed on us weak humans.

This book is a little over 700 pages. The first half of the book will take you through the paces as Kenyon gives not a glimpse but full immersion to the reader of Acheron's life before he fully came into his powers.

Being a royal means nothing to Acheron's mortal "parents". Every known torture, humiliation and tragedy that can befall a person hits Acheron several times over. Just when you think nothing else can happen to the man...WHAM the Fates (who happen to be his step-sisters) deals him another blow.

I won't spoil the ending, but I will say that if anything the book does send one clear cut message...Love is always worth fighting for.